Getting Ready for the Holidays in a Blended Family
Things get SO complicated around the holidays in a blended family. When are you visiting your family? His? When will you have your stepchild(ren)? Do you get a gift for the ex? Her husband? Their...
View ArticleHealthy Co-Parenting Begins with a Healthy You
Are you ready for all of the drama to END? For this stepmomming life to be EASIER and more enjoyable? The healthy relationships you crave are not out of reach, but they do begin with you! Before you...
View ArticleIt takes Thick Skin to be a Stepmom
Go into your refrigerator and grab an egg. Yes, I mean it. Eggs are fragile, so be careful! Be sure not to drop it. Protect it as best as you can. Now… hold the egg in the palm of your hand, and then...
View ArticleHey Stepmom, It’s Okay to Take Up Space
Friend, we need to talk. I see you running on empty, I hear you voicing your stepmom needs in our stepmom support group, and I think it’s time to let you in on a very simple secret… We already know...
View ArticleWhen Your Support System Feels Far Away
As Carrie Bradshaw says on Sex and the City, “Maybe our girlfriends are our soulmates and guys are just people to have fun with.” As women, we pride ourselves on our friendships. Our “girl talks” over...
View ArticleWhy You Shouldn’t be Friends with the Ex on Facebook
Should you be friends with the ex on social media? It’s complicated. For some, the answer is “Sure! Why not?” or even, “Duh!” But more often than not, the answer is a BIG FAT NO. Do not pass go, do...
View ArticleThe Best (and Most Annoying) Stepmom Advice I’ve Ever Received
For my 30th birthday I received my first ever gift from my, at the time, new boyfriend. We had just started seeing each other and I couldn’t wait to open his gift. I was convinced this gift would give...
View ArticleIt’s Time to Get Real about Stepmom Self-Care
Welcome to 2019 and the era of FOMO, YOLO, and “self-care.” If your experience as a stepmom brought you to this blog, then you’ve probably already kissed your YOLO/FOMO days goodbye. You may, however,...
View Article5 Encouraging Songs for the Toughest Stepmom Days
There are days that just plain suck as a stepmom. Some of those days are when a custody battle is looming and you’re anxiety-ridden, or you’re waiting not-so-patiently for your husband to let you know...
View ArticleThe Codependent’s Journey with Stepparenting
Welcome, my fellow unselfish, forever forgiving martyrs! Have you run out of cheeks to turn and are wondering why things aren’t getting better in your home? Read on. According to author Melody Beattie,...
View ArticleStepmom Mental Health: The Conversation is Just Beginning
As I sit at home surrounded by my husband, my two stepdaughters, and my dog, I feel completely alone. Like an outsider in my own home. But why? It’s not because they treat me poorly. We all love each...
View ArticleYou’re Allowed to say “No.”
Hi, I’m Kait, and I’m a recovering doormat. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve agreed to something, only to have a private emotional breakdown about it later. I wish I could say I’ve never lied about...
View ArticleHow a Broken Windshield Helped Me Face My Anxiety
It hit me one day: My anxiety is worse than I had realized. We had driven 10+ hours from our home to a small town we’d never been to. The court agreement says my husband gets one long weekend a month...
View ArticleDeveloping an Attitude of Stepmom Gratitude
We’re all familiar with the difficulties that sometimes come along with our everyday lives as stepmoms. Even something simple like a parent/teacher conference can end up bringing up confusion and...
View ArticleGetting Ready for the Holidays in a Blended Family
Things get SO complicated around the holidays in a blended family. When are you visiting your family? His? When will you have your stepchild(ren)? Do you get a gift for the ex? Her husband? Their...
View Article20 Things to Stop Worrying About in 2020
Stepmomming ain’t easy. Can I get an amen? This life is tough stuff. But I’ve found that it’s exponentially MORE difficult if you don’t have the right frame of mind. When you can look past some of the...
View ArticleSecond Wife Syndrome: Comparison is the Killer of Joy
Have you vacationed there with her? Was that your picnic basket you used as a family? Is that somewhere you had date night with her? I used to think (and ask!) about his ex-wife all the time. I didn’t...
View ArticleWhy Stepmoms Should Do Nothing. And Five Steps To Get There.
Yesterday, I changed my sheets. That was my big accomplishment for the day. Yes, in this new world of social distancing and quarantines, where I now have all the time in the world to stepmom and to...
View ArticleNot a Bunch of Roses: When the Stepmom Becomes a Mom
Stepparenting is full of challenges. So is parenting. Becoming a mom is full of challenges that you can’t even realize until you become one, no matter how long you have been a stepmom. I was a stepmom...
View ArticleOne of the Biggest Mistakes I Made as a Stepmom
My sister asked, “Can you come over and hang out with us next Thursday?” and I immediately replied, “I’m not sure, let me check our custody schedule and see if Krista will be home!” Several variations...
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